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Mommy, I’m a Girl! My Acceptance Journey Mothering a Transgender Child

Tasha Kuxhausen

“What I want people to understand is that being transgender is not a choice.”

Tasha Kuxhausen’s son was just three years old the first time he said, “Mommy, I’m a girl!” When Tasha Kuxhausen heard those words, she knew in her heart it was time to embrace a reality her mind had been unwilling to accept. Charlie’s obsession with all things female wasn’t a phase; he wasn’t confused; he wasn’t gay. Although born with male anatomy, Charlie’s brain and heart were that of a girl. And he knew it by the time he was three years old.

Told from the very personal perspective of a loving mother torn between social constructs and her son’s gender nonconforming behavior, Mommy, I’m a Girl! Takes readers inside the mind of a parent coming to terms with raising a transgender child. Kuxhausen candidly and poignantly traces the highs, the lows, and the missteps during the first seven years of her now daughter Elsa’s journey, from fleeting moments of calm when Charlie would do something stereotypically “boyish,” to Tasha’s growing anxiety when Charlie’s declarations that he was female grew more frequent. She chronicles key moments like telling teachers, other parents, friends, and family members.

In following her child’s lead, Kuxhausen found acceptance. This is the story of how her daughter’s life changed her own, and she hopes it brings clarity to others.

Mommy, I’m a Girl! My Acceptance Journey Mothering a Transgender Child

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About the Author:

Despite her small-town upbringing in Nebraska, Tasha Kuxhausen was destined to break the mold. She is a necessary and a compelling voice for a brave new world. To her friends and family, she is fiercely loyal and a champion to everyone she loves; a fighter in the highest sense of the word. After graduating from the University of Nebraska with a Bachelor of Journalism, Tasha found herself pursuing a long career in the wine industry, where she remains. It wasn’t until she and her husband found themselves on a path of acceptance after their firstborn son announced he was a girl, that she was ready to use her writing skills. Armed with a glass of wine, computer, and the inspiration of her daughter’s journey, she writes this memoir in the hopes of sharing her daughter’s courage and to teach others to understand how a young child fights for her identity and acceptance as transgender. As a first- time author, Tasha speaks with deep conviction for what’s important to her. Loudly sharing her story to the world, she hopes to open eyes and minds to the transgender journey—through the eyes of a mother. =

She resides in San Diego, CA with her husband, daughter Elsa, and son Oliver.

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